EXPECTATIONS V.S REALITY: BUT WHAT IF WE COULD MEET OUR EXPECTATIONS?

Every now and then we hear about “expectations v.s reality” and in most of the cases, reality seems to be completely different from our expectation. But, what if we could convert our expectations into reality and most of all, what if we could meet our expectations?

      Here are some of my views on meeting our expectations,

• BELIEVE

 “We don’t believe what we see, we see what we believe”- Dr. Wayne Dyer

The moment we start believing in ourselves that we can convert our expectations into reality, it is then when we start seeing the things falling in our part. So, it is really important for us to believe that anything can be achieved even before it is started.

• THOUGHTS

Once we believe in ourselves, we now have to align our thoughts with our expectations. Most often our expectation are too high but when it comes to our thoughts, they don’t match. If we have big expectations, it must be backed up with inspiring thoughts. When we can be in harmony with our thoughts we move towards meeting our expectations. It is important to realize that we have complete control over our thoughts. It’s our choice whether to have negative thoughts, be sad or to have a positive thought and be freaking awesome.

• MASSIVE ACTION

Whatever be our expectations, we must take massive actions. If we keep on taking massive action, there’s a high probability that we can even meet beyond our expectations. It is also important to enjoy the actions we take along the way. As a saying goes “ Massive action leads to massive results”.

• NEVER GIVE UP

Even if we believe in ourselves, align our thoughts with expectations and take massive actions, sometimes we are unable to meet our expectations as a result we get off the track, we feel like giving up and come up with many excuses. But, if we want to meet our expectations, we must be able to learn from our mistakes, make necessary changes, keep moving and never ever give up. A quieter never wins and a winner never quiets.

• PATIENCE

In this new era of technology where everything is happening in a rapid pace, we want everything in a short period of time, we want an immediate results. If we see something online, we want it right at the moment, right at the time. If we get what we want, it’s completely OK, but if we don’t get it right at the moment we feel frustrated, angry and negative. which may also mean that we lack patience. so, what must we do to be patience? Let’s be aware of our emotions, our feelings, our actions and instead of giving ourselves pressure for immediate result let’s focus on being patience.

• BE POSITIVE

A positive mindset is all that we need. It is really easy to be negative, to be judgemental, to get off the track when things don’t go as expected but if we can go deep down within ourselves and choose to be positive, no matter what happens we will still be ready to convert our expectations into a reality.

• NO EXPECTATIONS

One of the best way to meet our expectations is simply by not having the expectation. But, what do we mean by this? Having no expectations may also mean that we are focused more on the process or journey rather than the results or end products. When we are focused on the result, we are not certain of attaining it but if we can focus on the process, it is true that we can meet our desired outcome.

• KNOW THY SELF

If we want to meet our expectations then it is really important to know ourselves. Only if we know ourselves, we will be certain of what to expect out of life or anyone or anything. Most often we expect that which doesn’t meet our values and when we attain them, it is likely that they don’t make us happy. Some of the ways of knowing our inner-self can be through meditation, a deep sense of desire to know the self, being in the nature, mirror-talk, through writings, etc.

• OUT OF THE COMFORT ZONE

The human brain was conditioned to survive, it prevents us from taking new actions and going out of our comfort zone. But, in order to meet our expectations we must be able to move out of our comfort zone, be the highest version of ourselves, which eventually becomes our habit and we keep on striving to do new things everyday. The moment we step out of our comfort zone, it no longer becomes our comfort zone.

• CHANGE PATTERN

Once we know our expectations we take action towards converting them into reality. And most of the time we keep on repeating the same action, same behaviour, same pattern again and again even if we are not producing the result. So, it is really important to be aware of our action, make necessary changes, keep updating and move towards meeting our expectations.

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If we keep on comparing between expectation and reality, we will waste our whole life judging, complaining and making ourselves inferior. And most of the time, it is likely that we won’t be able to meet our expectation. Out of 100 time, it is likely that we can fail 90 times, but it is not about how many times we achieve or how many times we fail, rather it all comes to how we view it and how we set ourselves everyday in spite of our failure.

After all its neither about meeting our expectation nor compromising with our reality rather its all about ourselves, who we choose to become each and everyday, why we choose to become and how we progress, grow and strive each and every day no matter what.