That day, I felt the most lively than ever, not because I achieved or got something. It was just that I forgave and it felt so damn right.
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It was mid-week of August. So far I can remember, I was having some sort of misunderstanding with one of my friend and at any cost, I wanted to avoid her.
Long story short, even though I wanted to avoid her but ended up meeting her almost all the time. The last time when I saw her, she looked really tired and stressed because of her hectic work schedules. It was at that moment, all my negativity over her, dropped down and I was able to forgive her with all my heart and soul.
I don’t know how much impact it had upon her but at that moment when I forgive her, I felt the most lively ever.
WHY FORGIVE?
Often times, we put so much of a burden on ourselves thinking negative and unnecessary thoughts. But if we can just practise forgiveness, it sets us free and helps us move towards happiness and fulfilment.
Below are some of my views on practising forgiveness;
HOW TO FORGIVE?
1. COMMUNICATE/TALK: Most often when we have some misunderstanding, we usually become selfish and think we’re right and others are not. But if we can take the courage to step forward, talk to the other person and listen to their concerns, it becomes easier to forgive them.
2. MAKE IT A HABIT: Who we are right now is all because of the habits we have been repeating day after day. How we think, how we act, how we feel, is the result of our habit. So, if we can install a new habit of forgiving others, this beautiful habit can give us more good than harm.
3. JUST DO IT: It might sound easy to say, easy to read about forgiveness, attend the seminar on forgiveness, but if we don’t apply it, it becomes useless. So, one of the best way to forgive others might be “JUST DO IT”. Let’s just forgive others and focus on our own thing.
4. JOURNAL: Journaling and writing down our bad emotions and experiences helps us release our negativity in the form of words. Once our negativity are released, it becomes easier to forgive others.
5. PAIN AND PLEASURE: Another way to foregive others are by using the principle of pain and pleasure. If we can represent enough of pain on our mind for not being able to forgive, this pain initiates us to take action towards forgiving others.
One simple example of using the pain is during the deadline. Once the deadline starts approaching, the painful thought of not being able to finish it, makes us take massive action.
Same goes with the pleasure too. If we can represent enough of positive and pleasurable thoughts on our mind for forgiving someone, it becomes easier to forgive others even faster.
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Forgiveness is a skill, which can be learned and practised over time. It is one of many assets that can be useful throughout our lifetime.
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